Withthedevelopmentofcitycivilization,familyviolenceseemsalreadywentoutofoursight.Whilewearecelebratingthatkidsarenotgettinghurtinfamilyviolence,thereisdamagewayappears.Thiskindofwaywillnothurtchildphysically,butspiritual.Wecallthatsoftviolence,whichmeanshurtingpeoplewithwords.
Icanseethatmostparentsstillnotunderstandwhatdoessoftviolencemeans,theyusuallythinkthatbeatingkidsisviolence,butsoftviolence,theyhavenoidea.Forinstance,mostparentswouldsaythewordtokidslike“Youhavetostudyhard,oryouwillnotfindagoodjob.Andifyoudon’thaveagoodjob,howcouldyousupposetowaitonandsupportuswhenwearegettingold?”doesitsoundfamiliartoyou?Thewordslikethatwillcauseseriouspsychologicalburdentoyounglittlekids,andtheywouldstudyeveryhardandignoretheirhealth,whiletheyareinthehighstresstoworryabouttheywillnotfindagoodjob,andhavenoabilitytosupporttheiroldparents,thatwouldbecomeablacksheep.
Inaddition,“youclassmateisbetterthanyouinmathorEnglish,whywouldyoudoanexcellentjobjustlikethem?”thiskindofwordwillhurtkid’sesteemdeeply.Theymightthinkthattheyarenevergoodenoughfortheirparents,anditwillprobablyleadtodepressivedisorder.
Therefore,whenparentsteachchildren,theyshouldnotonlyusephysicalviolencebutalsonotsoftviolence,becausethedamageofbothviolenceisequal.
